Well, I got an earful on another website I belong to.
Erm--excuse me a second.
"BOOTSIE! WE DO NOT EAT CHRISTMAS TREES!"
Ahem. Where was I?
erm--excuse me again.
"BOOTSIE! WE DO NOT GRAB AND GNAW ON AND KICK, THE FALLEN ORNAMENTS, EITHER!"
Okay, well, Flame just chased Bootsie away so, all's well again.
Sorry about that--oh, and they've been so good, too. Well, that lasted about a day and a half. Guess the novelty's worn off.
It began with Charlie knocking the tree over this morning, and then Flame began playing with one of the silver jingle bell ornaments...ah me, just a normal cat-owner's Christmas then.
Well, at least somebody's happy, ey?
Anyway--where the heck was I?
Oh yeah, well, this girl on this website, out of the blue--I don't even know her--starts telling me her life story...how upset she is that her boyfriend is miles away from her, and she's angry about it, and she can't understand how he could leave her to go work elsewhere.
Now I was nice--no, really. I sympathised with her, did the old maid-ish tsk-tsk, and isn't that a shame, and all that.
But, and I'm sorry to admit this--but I don't see what the problem is. Maybe it's because I've never had anyone be in love with me, or been in love myself--though I've certainly felt the stirrings once or twice, it's never been allowed to develop into anything more---so maybe my perception is a bit skewed, me being an old maid an all that.
To me--and this is just speaking about how I feel--yeah, I imagine it's quite hard, to be apart from someone you care about, have deep feelings for. But me--I don't know. I feel, like, if I ever found someone who truly loved me--I mean, really loved me, and for him I also had deep feelings, well, it would be hard, being separated--but mostly, I'd just want him to be HAPPY. And, if being apart means that he's happy, that's okay. As long as he kept in touch with me (and I don't mean every single day--just a few times a week, or whatever), and I knew that he missed me, but was off doing what he loved...or if he was in a situation, where he simply couldn't be with me...I don't see the problem. Military personnel, long-haul truckers, pilots, ship workers and fishermen and others, all are forced to be away from loved one's for long periods. Sometimes it breaks up a relationship--and sometimes not.
I watched, for 32 years, my mum married to a man who was always there (well, in the physical sense), but whom totally hated his life, his job. I would much rather be apart from someone I loved who was off, happy doing his thing, than live all the time with some miserable git. That's just me, though. I'm not speaking for woman-kind or anything like that.
I think, it's a personal thing, inside you. You either can handle separation--learn to deal with it as it comes, or you simply cannot.
And, I don't find fault with those who can't, not at all.
It's just human nature, individuality, it's the way people are...and of course, it depends, I think quite often, on the situation, as well.









